Well the title speaks for itself. First I’ve read a book on how to stop smoking and then I was stopped smoking. Now I’ve read a book about jealousy, and now I’m free from jealousy. It’s amazing that such a little effort, can evolve to that something much more value able. I was quite jealous of my boyfriend, because he is a nice guy with many female friends, and women are generally looking a lot after him. At first I was jealous a few times, but due to a big clash with very low self-esteem, my jealousy exploded. I was arguing with my boyfriend several weekends in a row and it always ended with, that I had to apologize to him on Sunday. I was therefore determined to do something about my jealousy immediately.

How I got rid of my jealousy
I was recommended thejealousybook.com and after I’ve read myself halfway through the book, I felt a positive effect. At first i wanted to call my boyfriend and tell him everything I had been wiser about, but I waited until I had finished it. After I had read my way through the 12 chapters about jealousy I did put some special attention into Chapter 7, which concerns about low self-esteem. It was also in this chapter, I could tell you from the beginning, that it all came from my low esteem. When I “lay” the book away from me, I could feel the positive effect, and the desire to do something about my jealousy. One of the first advices I did let myself begin with, was to do something good for myself in terms of cultivating some exercise. I had already made an agreement with my boyfriend, that he was going to visit me that evening, I was very excited to tell him about my jealousy changes.

A nice talk about jealousy
When my boyfriend came home, he knew well in advance that I was going talk to him about my jealousy. I told him about my findings, and how I had managed to turn jealousy into something positive in the form of some good healthy exercise. He told me that he actually had been jealous too, but that he just chosen not to share it with me. The reason that he has kept it for himself earlier, was that he feared what would happen if we both was acting jealous. We were both very pleased with our talk, and after that it was like I didn’t even understand that i had been jealous at all. Basically I think it was the fear of talking about it, which has exacerbated the situation even more.

What you should do if you are jealous
You have to talk about issues in a relationship, because everything else doesn’t lead to anything good. Even if you think you are the only one who suffers from jealousy, it doesn’t need to be the truth. It’s very important that they you ignore your beliefs sometimes, until you completely sure with them, it’s the only way to be wiser. I can recommend everyone that is jealous, to do the same. Talk about the issues you might got. That’s all for now, have a nice day!
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